Sunday, December 30, 2007

You can do it!!!

There it is.....just before you know it....the day before New Year....the last day of the year. For many people it is the day in which they put away all the bad things of the previous year; end the chapter of bad memories and habits and celebrate to welcome the beginning of a new year with new playing cards and new chances.


Just like many other people, we had always celebrated the 31st of December at home with the family. For us it had become a tradition of some kind...an obligation....
One of the reasons why we had this obligation was because it is my fathers birthday on New Years day. Often I doubted the use of this family-day since we have been doing it for the last 28 years. I wanted to go out.....I wanted to see what it is like on the other side of the world when the New year starts.

Finally...now I know that there's nothing I want more than to have my family all together at home to witness the beginning of a new year; to watch the beautiful fireworks, to eat my father's birthday cake at midnight and to toast on one and all health.

This year would be the first time that we won't be together as my father fights hard in the ICU to survive; as my grandmother now stays in an Nursery for elder people.
As my father's situation is getting worse every time I see him. I can see he is having a tough time. Just lying there. Not being able to speak and move must be terrible. It breaks my heart again and again when I see him like that. I feel so useless, so helpless.... Then sometimes I think I haven't been such a good son. Maybe I should have listened a bit more....spend a little more time with him and told him that how much I care about him..... Now I might never have the chance anymore.....

Occasions like New Year and Christmas aren't just about the birth of some saint and leaving bad things behind. It's also about being together.
No matter how beautiful the Christmas trees are; No matter how bright the New Year fireworks are, it wont mean anything if you cannot share these moments with you the ones you love most.

Dad...be strong...we will always be at your side and waiting for you to come home....Dad .... YOU CAN DO IT!!!

1 comment:

gracey said...

Let it be
對不起那麼遲才看到你的blog。『樹欲靜而風不息,子欲養而親不在。』很明白你喪父之痛,但我亦想你用正向思考生活,不要活在痛苦中,你有一個任勞任怨,為你付出一切的母親『明姐』,有一個和你很親密的姊姊『恩姐』,近年更娶了一個溫柔和順服,願意和你同甘共苦,分享快樂的小老婆『Nancy』,因你們很年青便結婚,又有了一個可愛到不得了的Ryan仔。
回這blog的用意是告訴你當你在人生失去一部份的時候,你仍然擁有很多的大部份,在Nancy回港的數天,你不致太寂寞,在你向人生,父親反思的同時(blog 上的一句I think I haven’t been such a good son.)我想給你一點提醒,Let it be你當然有很多優點,例如,純品,好丈夫,好父親,就只是脾氣大了一點和比較大男人,這也是人際關係的致命傷。(對不起彈你添,苦口良藥呀!)嘻嘻!